I have to say. .. not everything about aging is bad. Getting to the other side of menopause is cause for celebration. I was fortunate during that phase, because I hardly ever experienced any symptoms. One of my co-workers suffered from hot flashes frequently. Power surges, she called them. Her face would get all flushed, she would have to shed her blazer or sweater, dash to the restroom to soak a paper towel in cold water, and press her face into it. The only time I would suffer a "power surge" was occasionally in the middle of the night, when I might awaken in a pool of perspiration. Those surges seemed to be directly related to my intake of caffeine or too much sugar; once I figured that out, I was able to "stay cool" most of the time.
Whether the susceptibility to power surges and other menopausal symptoms is hereditary, I'll never know. My mother would NEVER have discussed it. The words 'menopause' and 'hot flashes' were just not in her vocabulary. I do remember her and my aunt having whispered discussions about "The Change;" knowing looks and nods would pass back and forth between them if one of their contemporaries was suffering from the condition; "nervous breakdowns" were not uncommon--but "woman things" just were not acceptable topics of conversation! And certainly not in front of children!
Childbearing was another unmentionable topic. I recall chuckling when Mom mentioned that a cousin of mine was "in a family way." Not appreciative of my mirth, she said, "What am I supposed to say? She's PREGNANT?" She spat the word out as though it were a curse word or worse--repugnant to the tongue!
I'm afraid Mom would not approve of this post; she probably would be shocked in general by many topics on my blog. I'm sorry, Mom; but you'll be glad to know I made it through "The Change" without having a "nervous breakdown." In fact, I can't really say I suffered at all, and the best part is, it's been years since I've had a monthly "visitor.."