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Friday, March 18, 2011

An Apology

I  apologize that I do not have a post today.   Actually, I had one, but I received a very thoughtful comment pointing out that my post was offensive to those of the Muslim faith, as it implied that all Muslims are terrorists.  

It was not my intent to imply this, either overtly or accicentally, so I have removed the post.  I was obviously insensitive and regret that very much.  I  have posted below the comment which resulted in the removal of my post. 


Eva, I live in Malaysia which is a predominantly Muslim country and I have relatives who are Muslim converts. Your article suggests that all Muslim men are terrorists and I can assure you that many of my Muslim friends and relatives (male/female) are alarmed at how they have been portrayed by the media, are not as fanatical as some are and certainly do not carry a handmade bomb to detonate in the name of jihad. They are moderate in their beliefs and have no hatred towards anyone. We are all deeply saddened by the events of September 11. Did you know that a young Malaysian man who worked in one of the towers died that day too and his remains never found? Many Muslims have admitted to being ashamed of the negative impact the actions of those careless men have created. I think its time to move on....





March 18, 2011 1:55 AM

28 comments:

Brian Miller said...

((eva))

thank you for being sensitive...and dont beat yourself up over it...

Midday Escapades said...

Well, Eva - if there's nothing else I know to be true in this world, you cannot please everyone. My, if I had a nickel for every Catholic joke I heard, I'd be a trizillionaire by now. I'm here for ya, baby!

The Broad said...

Good call, Eva. Can't help but think though about all the Irish jokes going around yesterday ...

laughingmom said...

You've done a nice thing...but don't take it too hard - being funny and pc don't go arm in arm.

DJan said...

I agree that sometimes it's hard to know the impact of our writing on others, but you were very sensitive to take off the article and put up the comment explaining why. Big hugs to you!

glnroz said...

i didn't read the post, but,,,,umm oh well, somebody needs to get over themselves,,and it ain't ms Wrestling with Retirement.

EmptyNester said...

Very nice of you to pull the post although I am certain your intent is NEVER to insult/offend/etc...anyone. Your commenter makes a valid point about the media. There are people around here who pay too much attention to media opinions and then walk around all judgey and voice hatred based on nothing more than what they heard. Sad.

I will miss my laugh-provided-by-Eva today though!

SherilinR said...

good for you. it was funny to me, but i totally miss the sensitivity bus frequently.

Eva Gallant said...

laughingmom: Thanks.

Glenn: Thanks to you, too!

tsonodablog said...

Eva;
In my opinion, you showed so much poise and class by admitting your error publicly and posting the letter. I love you more than ever. You are an awesome woman. Thank you for being you. And Brian's right, don't beat yourself up. You've made amends.
BIG BIG HUG, my friend.

Jen said...

You pulled the post.....someone else should move on!!

Muffy's Marks said...

Some people need to get over themselves. Every single person living in this great mixing pot is stereo-typed in some way or fashion. Be it either, nationality, color of skin, religion, weight, hair color, or no hair, tall, or short. The list goes on. We could all stay in bed all day, in fear of being offended.
I love your posts, and if you want to example me, I'm dutch, short, fat, grey hair, catholic, brown eyed, etc , be my guest. My best laughs are at myself. Like Brian said, don't beat yourself up over it. Get back on the horse.
Muffy

Joanna Jenkins said...

Hi Eva, I didn't see the post but I'm with Brian Miller. And I would like to add that as a longtime, regular reader of yours, I have never found you to be insensitive or hurtful in your posts.
xoxo jj

Al Penwasser said...

Good call, but I agree: don't beat yourself up over it. You may find this hard to believe, but I probably have inadvertently offended someone on occasion with something that I thought was funny. I never, ever, mean to hurt anyone's feelings (except the bullies in my stories. But, like I said, screw 'em). Especially on blogger, with its many readers from all over the world, it's easy to think you're being hilarious when you're in reality hurting someone. I try to have most of my jokes directed at me in a self-deprecating manner for two reasons: 1. To avoid slinging barbs at anyone else and 2. Well, they're pretty much all true. Especially the pee on my feet thing.
You're a good person.

natalee said...

Eva you are sooo sweet... I'd say f it... your funny stuff is never meant to be taken seriously..... so they need to build a bridge and get over it... I'm your biggest fan!!!!!! You are the classiest lady I know.... ps.. email the post to me.. im from Jersey they say we lack class and decorum anyway...hugs

Nicki said...

Eva, I didn't read the post being mentioned but I have to say that you are one of the most sensitive people I read! I sometimes think I should be PC in my blog and for the most part, I am. However, it is MY blog and America is MY country and the constitution says I can say what is on my mind. I try to be sensitive but there will always be someone who gets offended. I do appreciate the way she replied to you. She was very good-natured about voicing her opinion. As you can see, I sometimes am not that good!

I agree with the writer that not all Muslims are terrorists. I know quite a few who are wonderful, wonderful people!! There are the exceptions to every thing and I like to think that the terrorists are the exceptions. However, MOVE ON??? Sorry, whoever you are, now you are the one not being politically correct. I won't ever say that ALL people in ANY group are bad. That isn't the case. I believe most people are good at heart and soul. However, do not try to rob Americans (and I am a New Yorker to boot) the right to remember very clearly the events of that day. Each of us will move on when the time is right for us to do so.

The Retired One said...

I think it is wise of you to have removed the post. I used to do more jokes regarding those of different nationalities, sexual preferences, weight, religion, etc. but long ago stopped doing that as I never want to make any group feel "less" about themselves. It is no longer humor (or ever was) to do that to others.

Unknown Mami said...

Eva, this makes me want to cry because so few people ever, ever acknowledge that perhaps they have been insensitive. I am so proud of you for not only apologizing, but sharing the comment that made you think twice. I'm sure your intent was not to be insensitive, but sometimes we don't see things as others do and it is a gift to be able to acknowledge someone else's perspective without becoming defensive. We should all take a page from your book.

Deb said...

I did not see the original post. Knowing you, Eva, I am sure it was something humorous.

I find it very sad that this world has become so sensitive, expecting political correctness at all times. It is exactly that thinking that creates more strife and hostility - hence the reason for the complaining comment and the resultant removal of that post.

People are too serious. They take offense at a humor-based blog post? Really? It's a freakin' BLOG! It's one woman's writing, her sense of humor, her views and takes on society. Not everyone will like it and I find it very sad that because someone complained you felt pressured to remove the post.

Lighten up, people. We are all offended by something at one time or another. Grow up and deal with it.

Now, how 'bout this:
The commenter's last line "I think it's time to move on.." offends ME. "Move on"??? None of us will ever forget the events of 9/11. We will not "move on", but we will grow, we will learn and we will deal with it.

Lazarus said...

Very open-minded and compassionate of you Eva, bravo!

Pat said...

I didn't see the post, but since you pulled it, and apologized on top of it, you shouldn't worry anymore.

lakeviewer said...

It's tough to be a comedian.

Clipped Wings said...

I think it is close to being impossible to be politically correct for everyone in the world. You're a sweet person, so don't kick yourself too many times. Stuff happens.

Jaya J said...

Hello Eva. That's very nice of you though I'm sure you meant no harm. I'm from Malaysia too, and I must say that there are many Muslims, who are nice people. They are some Muslim fanatics, who use religion to gain political mileage, in Malaysia and everywhere else in the world, but there are also a nice bunch of them out there, just like you and me.

Claudia said...

this was such a sensitive apology eva - we all make mistakes and i think that was a very good way to deal with it.. cyber hugs your way - i think you're a fantastic woman

Eva Gallant said...

I just want to say thank you to all of you who left such kind comments! They are all appreciated. Hugs to you all!

injaynesworld said...

Interesting predicament. I didn't read the post, but I know you would never intentionally set out to offend anyone. It's a touchy time in this country with certain media doing their best to stir the pot of discord among us and play on our fears. In light of that, you probably did the right thing. Stereotypes of any kind are an easy go-to for a joke. Resisting that route is harder, but I think in the long run doing so makes us better writers.

P.S. Ever consider getting the Disqus system for comments?

gaelikaa said...

Eva, I didn't happen to see that post. You know, I live in India where there are many faiths. I'm a Catholic from Ireland and the husband is a Hindu. One day a member of yet another religious community visited our house and as soon as he heard that I was a Christian he launched into a big lecture on how Jesus was not the Son of God. Was I offended? Yes. Did I retaliate? No. When he paused for breath I reminded him that Jesus told us "The Father and I are One" and that it is up to every individual to decide if they agree with that or not. Then I got up and made tea.

This different communities and religions business is a minefield. Sometimes you can give offence even when you don't meant to. Everything is open to interpretation. I applaud you for open mindedness and sensitivity to that comment.