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Monday, May 16, 2011

"You have stage 3."

I hear the words the oncologist speaks to my husband, and I wish he were referring to a venue where we will be performing....doing a song and dance (not that we CAN sing and dance) on Stage 3 at the Lincoln Lincoln Theater, or some other theater.  But no, that's not what the oncologist has on his mind.

Stage 3 of cancer means not only was there a tumor, but lymph nodes are involved.  Although twenty-one lymph nodes were removed as part of the surgery, of which only two were affected, treatment with chemotherapy is recommended.  We get to choose; the most aggressive approach involves chemotherapy infusion intravenously, or tablets taken 3 times per day--less invasive, but also, less effective.

Naturally we elect to go with the most aggressive form of treatment.  There are too many things we still want to do, too many places in the country we haven't visited.  But that choice means we won't be going on any trips for a while.  Our travels will be limited to the doctor's office for chemo treatments, starting in June--4 or 5 times per week for 2 weeks at a time, with a week's reprieve, and then two weeks again with the ritual continuing for 12 weeks. 

We will conquer the demon.  We must.  We have places to go, people to see, grandchildren to enjoy.  We are up to the battle.  We will endure.  We will prevail.    We have overcome many challenges in our nearly 28 years of marriage; this hurdle, perhaps the most challenging yet, will be no match for our determination and tenacity.

Mr. Eva was discharged from the hospital on Sunday--two to four days earlier than the surgeon anticipated.  His grit and determination are surfacing already. 

Again, many thanks for the kind words and support my cyber-friends. I love and appreciate you all.

I will resume normal posting, although I don't know if I will be posting daily right away.  It depends on how busy the medical schedule gets.

If this post is confusing to you, it's probably because you missed my last one.  Feel free to scroll down and get caught up!
EVA

29 comments:

Kristina P. said...

My stomach sank! But if he's anything like you, sassy and determined, he will make it!

singedwingangel said...

OH Eva hun I am so floored, I would have never thought that.. sending you both healing thoughts and tons of prayers of warring angels around you..

Queenie Jeannie said...

I think cancer is the dirtiest word in our language!!! HUGS!!!!!!! Keep up that spirit - you'll both need it. And when you need a "fill up", come here and we'll be waiting for you!!!!

Wow, that was awkward said...

My thoughts, prayers and fabulously spectacular good karma are with your hub and you.

River said...

I missed your last post because my old laptop was having trouble connecting, so I bought a new one and spent a few days getting it going.

I'm all caught up now,and I sincerely hope the chemo is effective and Mr Eva will be okay.
My own mum died from bowel cancer and I've yet to have a colonoscopy even though I've mentioned it to various doctors, they all seem to think it isn't necessary. But this year I'm really going to push for one.

Claudia said...

oh eva - just don't know what to say - sending lots of love and hugs your way and be praying for you

Ⓙ @ $ € € ₦$ ₣®0₥... said...

I can't imagine the level of fear you both feel, but, Eva, talk to God. He will sustain you both.

Not only is there chemo, but there is something called radio frequency ablation. Link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Radiofrequency_ablation

I know several people who had colon cancer and underwent these treatments with success. Please ask Mr. Eva's oncologist about it.

And know that we're praying for you both.

xoxo

Deb said...

Attitude determines altitude.

You have each other. There is nothing more powerful than love, devotion and two pissed off people who are ready to whip cancer's ass.

Let Mr. Eva go through all the emotional stages he needs to go through. One day at a time, with you by his side, and you will both get through this.

My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

Brian Miller said...

((eva))

praying for the treatment to be affective...keep your spirits up and do take care of yourself through the process as well...

Muffy's Marks said...

That stinks. I pray for your hubby's recovery and your courage. Cancer is an ugly thing. Attitude is everything, and I'm sure you will win. Good luck with everything. Thoughts and prayers for you guys and your family.

DJan said...

I hope that you will keep me updated on his progress, so I can send along my hopes and prayers along with the rest of your fan club, Eva.

Dawn @Lighten Up! said...

Ah Eva! So sorry for yours and Mr. Eva's struggle. You two are incredible, though. I am so sure you can power through! Hugs and prayers--Dawn

EmptyNester said...

Darn right y'all are going to beat this demon! I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers and send all the positive healing thoughts I can muster your way!

Mr. Eva's cancer- you're going down!

glnroz said...

we're standing behind ya all the way...

Bossy Betty said...

Wow. Sending SO MANY hugs and prayers your way!

rosaria said...

We'll be rooting for his speedy recovery and for your strength and patience. Your life will change for a bit, but then, oh then, you will enjoy each and every bite and appreciate each other even more. Hugs and prayers are on the way.

Sandy said...

I supported my husband while he was going through chemo and it is very tough. My prayers are with you both.

The Vegetable Assassin said...

Miss Eva, chemo's no picnic, of course, it's hard for both parties and horrible and makes you sicker than the cancer, but afterwards? There's the great big chance that Mr. Eva will be his old self again and everything will be fine and you can breathe again. And do all those things you still want to. So stay strong through all the hard stuff ahead and just look forward to the light at the other side of the tunnel when it's all over and things are fine again. All the best to you both!!! I'll be thinking of you.

Pat said...

Wow. I am so sorry to hear this. But they say that attitude is 50% of the battle, and it sounds like your husband is ready to fight this demon. My prayers are with the both of you. Take care, my friend!

tattytiara said...

Big big big big big big BIG love to both of you, Eva. I hope he's healthy and adventuring with you again very soon.

Pastor Sharon said...

Uuhhmmm.....this is where the "Pastor" usually sounds like the "strong one" of the group.

When I read "stage 3", I began to feel hot water dripping down my face from my eyes and realized my mascara had pooled around my top lip giving a look of a bad mustache.

Anyhoo, Mr. Eva and you, Mrs. Eva, are gonna be in my daily prayers, unless you tell me not to.

I really want you to rush to where you are and hug you both. I mean after all, that's what my Mama always did and it seemed to make things seem less severe for me. So, I continue that with the people I know and love.

So, (((((BIG HUGS)))) and lots of smiles and prayers.
In the meantime, do you know which brand of water proof mascara could help me keep my femininity when my eyes drip hot water? Obviously, my brand is no good. ::))

Elenka said...

Best to you and Mr. Eva!!! Laughter is the best medicine, and since you are a nut, he should be better in no time!
Really, he will.
Hang in there.

injaynesworld said...

Damn! That just stinks! Be sure and add large doses of silliness to every day. You'll both need humor more than ever now. There's a reason laughter is called the best medicine. Please let Mr. Eva know he is in my thoughts. Big hugs to you both.

Homemaker Man said...

Lump in my throat reading that, Eva. But I know that you and Mr. Eva are made from stern stuff. He will beat this and then you'll be back to your routine by next summer latest.

We're thinking about you here, and we wisj you the best.

HM

Mesina said...

Eva....oh Eva. There are no words from me with this news, only that I hope so much that your Hubby kicks that fighting mode into action. Knowing you love him surely makes him a strong man. Every single one of my positive vibes is headed your way.

Love to you both. xx

Lazarus said...

Although it's not great news, it could be a lot worse. And with you in his corner, I'm sure hubby will pull through just fine...hang in there, we are all praying for you and hubby!

The Frisky Virgin said...

Oh, Eva. I'm so very sorry. I just know Mr. Eva will make it through this stronger than ever. I can tell that you and Mr. Eva are very special--with you by his side, he will get through this and kick stage 3 into oblivion, making it sorry it ever messed with him.

In fact, once he's through everything, he may want to get really feisty and take you salsa dancing. ;)

My thoughts and prayers are with you both. If you ever need someone to talk with, I'm here. *Hugs*

Sallie (FullTime-Life) said...

Best wishes. You (and your sweet hubby) have the right attitude to conquer this beast. Might not be fun for a while, but you two WILL do it!

Helene said...

Oh no, Eva. I'm so sorry to read this.

I haven't mentioned this on my blog but my FIL is going through chemo right now for colon cancer, Stage 3. He's halfway through his treatment and, while he's tired and weak, he's fighting as hard as he can to get through this.

It was a HUGE shock to us to find out he had cancer so I can imagine how you must have felt hearing those words from the doctor.

I'll keep you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers, that you both can stay strong and get through this tough time.